If you’re a coach or practitioner who genuinely cares about helping others, chances are you’ve struggled at some point with how to sell your services without feeling gross about it.
You love coaching. You’re deeply invested in your clients’ transformation. But when it comes time to actually ask for the sale, you hesitate.
Maybe your voice drops when you mention your offer. Or maybe you tack it on at the end of your newsletter. And maybe you avoid bringing it up at all.
You’re not alone.
In fact, one of the most common struggles I see with newer (and even some experienced) coaches is a deep discomfort around sales.
Not because they aren’t good at what they do, but because they equate selling with being pushy, manipulative, or sleazy.
But here’s the truth: you can learn how to sell coaching without being pushy.
And you can do it in a way that feels completely aligned with your values.
That’s what I teach my clients inside my business coaching programs, and that’s exactly what this blog post is here to help you understand.
Why Selling Feels So Uncomfortable for Coaches
Let’s start with some honesty. If you’re reading this, you probably didn’t become a coach because you wanted to learn sales strategy or become a master marketer.
You did it because you love helping people.
You want to hold space. Facilitate growth. Guide deep personal transformation.
But here’s the deal: being great at coaching is not enough to build a sustainable business.
You need clients. And clients come from clear, confident, consistent offers.
That’s where the friction happens. You worry you’ll come off as too salesy. You don’t want to alienate your audience. You’re scared of being perceived the wrong way.
And if you’re newer to business, you don’t have past wins to lean on yet, which can make putting yourself out there feel even scarier.
“If I don’t learn how to sell confidently, I know I’ll end up discouraged and give up on my business.”
This is something I hear all the time, and it’s completely valid.
But here’s what I want you to know: discomfort around sales is not a fixed identity. It’s a skill gap. And it’s one you can absolutely close.
Step 1: Reframe Selling as Service
The first and most important shift is this:
Selling isn’t something you do to people. It’s something you do for people.
When someone is struggling with a problem—and you have the tools to help them—sharing your offer isn’t pushy. It’s responsible.
You’re not taking their money. You’re giving them access to transformation.
If you don’t offer to help, they stay stuck. And you stay stuck in your business.
Your coaching skills work. You know they do. So why wouldn’t you let someone know that you can guide them to a result?
Action Step:
Start referring to your sales process as an invitation. You’re not pressuring. You’re offering a next step to someone who wants change.
Step 2: Make Your Offer Clear and Visible
One common mistake I see coaches make is hiding their offers.
They run free events, send thoughtful emails, or share valuable content, but when it’s time to talk about their paid services, they whisper.
They might say something like, “Oh, and by the way, I also do coaching if you’re interested…” and drop a link at the bottom of an email.
That’s not leadership. That’s hoping.
If people don’t understand what you do, how it helps, or how to take the next step with you, they won’t buy. Not because they’re not interested, but because they’re confused.
You don’t have to turn every conversation into a pitch. But if you’re not clearly communicating how you can help, you’re unintentionally blocking people from working with you.
Action Step:
Audit your last 5 pieces of content. Ask yourself:
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Did I make an offer?
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Was it clear who it was for?
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Did I share why it matters?
Step 3: Stop Making Assumptions About Money
This one’s big.
So many coaches project their own financial fears onto their audience. They assume, “No one in my audience can afford this,” or “They’re not going to pay for coaching.”
But here’s the truth: you don’t know their bank account, but you do know the value of your work.
It’s not your job to decide what someone else can afford. It’s your job to communicate how your offer helps them solve a real problem.
And if you’ve created something truly transformational—and priced it appropriately—you owe it to your audience to present it confidently.
“They’re not investing in you. They’re investing in themselves.”
Action Step:
Write down all the ways your coaching helps people. Get specific. What results are possible? How does their life improve?
Then ask: Is that worth the investment I’m charging? If yes, own it.
Step 4: Structure Your Free Content to Lead to Paid Offers
Free content can be an amazing lead generator. I often recommend that coaches start by hosting free events, workshops, or discussion groups as a way to build connection and trust.
But here’s the mistake: free without strategy doesn’t lead to clients.
If you’re putting out free value but never connecting it to a clear next step, you’re unintentionally training your audience to see you as “just” a free resource.
Instead, start using your free offerings as a bridge.
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Frame the event around a specific pain point.
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Use storytelling to show the deeper work you do.
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Make a direct, respectful invitation to take the next step.
This doesn’t mean turning your workshop into a sales pitch. It means leading with value and clarity.
Action Step:
Next time you run a free event or send a piece of content, ask yourself:
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What problem is this helping my audience solve?
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What solution can I point them toward that I offer?
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How can I invite them to work with me in a way that feels clear, direct, and aligned?
You don’t need to pressure anyone. But you do need to lead.
Step 5: Build Confidence by Practicing Sales Skills
A lot of coaches assume that sales should just come naturally—like if you’re meant to do this work, selling should feel effortless.
But that’s like expecting yourself to be fluent in a new language without studying it.
Sales is a skill. Just like coaching is a skill. And if you haven’t practiced it, of course it’s going to feel awkward.
Most of the discomfort coaches feel around selling doesn’t come from the act of selling—it comes from not having a structure or plan.
They don’t know what to say on a discovery call.
They don’t know how to transition from value to offer in a live workshop.
And they haven’t practiced asking for the sale in a way that feels natural.
Once you learn how to structure a sales conversation with clarity and confidence, it starts to feel good. Because it becomes less about “trying to get someone to say yes” and more about helping someone make a decision that’s right for them.
Confidence comes from repetition and refinement, not perfection.
Action Step:
Set aside time to actually practice your sales conversations. Write out a simple outline or script. Practice it out loud. Role-play with a peer or record yourself. Treat it like you would any new skill you care about mastering.
Step 6: Address the Real Fear: Being Rejected or Judged
At the core of pushback around sales is usually fear. Not fear of saying the wrong thing. Not even fear of not making money.
It’s fear of being judged.
Fear of being misunderstood.
Fear of someone unsubscribing from your list or unfollowing you on social media.
But here’s the thing: your business can’t grow if your comfort zone becomes your cage.
If you’re spending all your energy trying to avoid discomfort, you’re also avoiding the very actions that would move your business forward.
You don’t need to feel 100% fearless to take action. You just need to be willing to act even with the fear present.
Every successful coach I know has had to walk through those moments—clicking “send” on an offer email with a pounding heart, showing up for a discovery call while doubting themselves, pitching their program to crickets.
And guess what? They didn’t die.
They learned. Then they got better.
And eventually, they realized: the fear was just a sign that they were growing.
Action Step:
Write a list of what you’re afraid might happen if you show up and sell more visibly. Then ask yourself: what’s the cost of letting those fears keep you small?
Step 7: Shift Your Mindset Around What It Means to “Deserve” Clients
One hidden belief I often hear from coaches is this: “If I’m good enough, people will just find me.”
They think that getting clients should be purely based on merit or referrals. That if they’re really doing meaningful work, they shouldn’t have to market themselves.
But here’s the truth: being great at what you do isn’t enough if no one knows about it.
The coaching industry is more crowded now than it was five or ten years ago. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible to grow; it just means you have to stand out on purpose.
The best coaches in the world are still learning how to articulate what they do and invite the right people in.
And it’s not about being flashy. It’s about being clear, confident, and consistently present.
You don’t get clients because you deserve them. You get clients because you make it easy for them to see that you can help.
Action Step:
Reframe your belief: Instead of “I shouldn’t have to sell,” try “My ideal clients deserve to know how I can help them, and it’s my job to make that clear.”
Step 8: Anchor Your Sales in Authenticity
This is what makes selling sustainable: when you approach it as an extension of your coaching, not as something separate.
You’re not putting on a sales hat. You’re staying grounded in your expertise, your empathy, and your desire to support someone’s growth.
When you’re aligned with your message and you genuinely believe in the value of your offer, selling doesn’t feel pushy. It feels natural. It feels generous.
That’s what it means to sell coaching without being pushy. It’s not about tactics or trickery. It’s about staying rooted in service and aligned with your integrity.
And when you approach it that way, your ideal clients will feel that energy. They’ll want to work with you, not because you “convinced” them, but because they trust you to guide them.
Action Step:
Before every sales conversation, center yourself with this affirmation:
“This conversation is about them, not me. My job is to listen, serve, and offer what’s aligned.”
Final Thoughts
If you’ve been hesitant to put yourself out there, scared to talk about your coaching offer, or afraid of sounding like “just another online coach,” know this:
You are not alone. And there is absolutely a way to sell your coaching services that feels grounded, ethical, and aligned with your values.
It starts with a mindset shift.
It continues with building real sales skills.
And it thrives when you give yourself permission to be visible, confident, and clear about the transformation you offer.
Learning how to sell coaching without being pushy doesn’t require you to change who you are. It just asks that you show up as the best version of yourself.
A version that believes in your work, your clients, and your mission.
And when you do that?
The right people will say yes.
Ready to Sell With Confidence?
If you’re ready to stop second-guessing your marketing and start bringing in the clients who are already looking for someone like you, I’d love to support you.
Inside my Nourished Business Accelerator, I walk you through how to:
- Design and price a high-impact coaching offer
- Speak directly to the people who need your help
- Lead authentic, high-converting sales conversations
- Build a business that supports your income and your values
Because this doesn’t have to feel hard. You just need the right strategy and the right support.
Let’s make selling feel natural, empowering, and fun (yes, fun!) again.
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